Babe, Just Blink Already!

Blinking includes saying sorry when you have wronged someone. You will never be right about everything, and being right doesn’t feel so good after all when the other person ends up being hurt. What is the point of being so right and so alone? Apologizing doesn’t make you weak. It makes you the bigger man, as I said earlier.

Blinking sometimes is compromises. She is not 100% as you envision her to be but is there anyone like that on the planet? He might not fit the “list,” but 70% is an excellent place to start. Go easy on finding Mr. or Miss Right and work on being the Right one yourself.

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Peace Means War!

I was not as bold as Mommy, in fact, I don’t even have the “scars of honor” that most people show when they are all grown trying to narrate how they got a particular scar. I do not have a burn, never broke my hand or foot to a point of getting a cast or even a band-aid. Let’s just say am flawless (apart from pricked pimples here and there). I feared everything, even puppies.

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Freedom Is a Scam (The Lighthouse)

Now that I am “free,” I actually do not think I am free to date whoever I want, I actually do not want to date for the sake of it. For every outfit I choose or date I go to, I sort of feel like my future kids are asking if that man is the best daddy I could get them; I know it is crazy. Every time I choose an outfit, there’s the voice in me that asks if that outfit would bring glory to God.

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HUKU NJE!!! (12 Things I Wished I Knew Before My Graduation)

During my graduation, one of my aunts said that the next event they want to attend at home is my Ruracio. Expect so much pressure from your peers, family, and friends. Expect lots of “are you dating?” “ruracio ni lini?” the list is endless. Society already has a deadline in their minds for everyone, don’t try to please them. Walk your path. It’s ok to date at 26, and it’s ok to get married at 30,

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My Borana Crush (If I Were a Boy)

I will never understand pursuit from the man’s perspective, the guts it takes to ask a girl out for the first time. I will never understand the fear of being rejected; the strength it takes to pick up the pieces of yourself when she says it’s not mutual. The courage it takes to go ask again for clarity or for confirmation that she’s actually not playing hard to get. I will never understand the bravery it takes to ask another, and another, and another until you finally get the one that would say yes. I would never understand the confidence it takes to convince a girl that you are the one and the future is brighter for you if only she gives you a chance.

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While am Waiting

While am waiting for that ‘better stage’ to come, I will surrender to Him in order for Him to make me that which the next stage requires, instead of grumbling and whining, I will let Him do what He only knows is necessary for that next stage.
While am waiting, I won’t fast-forward or peek into the future with astrology and palm reading, I won’t try put on repeat mode the season that He clearly says is done. I won’t let my anxieties and insecurities push me to stuff that will make me regret. I will allow Him to do things at His own pace, I will allow Him to take time in whatever thing He says is worth taking time on, because after all, it is the teacher that declares the student ready for the next level

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Times And Plates

I found people calling him Africa, like the continent, not African. I was a child then so questioning him on whether his mother gave him that name would have come out as rude and disrespectful. Come to think of it, mothers in his time, though in my little head he didn’t seem to have had a mother or even been born, didn’t let things like a name bother them, they were too busy trying to make ends meet that the months would just fly away without her ever thinking that they would eventually name their child. Well, for these days, I won’t be surprised if a WhatsApp group was created to analyse the name they would give their yet to be born child, we’re sorry.

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