How to be a positive Single Christian woman in your Late 20s

Introduction

As a positive single woman in your late 20s, chances are that you have been a bridesmaid at many weddings, and most of your female friends are already married and settled down.

You might have even caught the bride’s bouquet more times than you care to admit. A season of singleness, especially for a woman at a certain age, might feel like a curse or as if God has forgotten you. In this article, you shall get to view singleness in a whole new perspective. You will explore how to navigate this stage full of life, purpose, and joy.

15 Ideal Ways to Thrive in Your Single Season

1. Hold on to God:

The simplicity of this statement might even dilute its meaning.

Holding onto God entails trusting Him to be faithful to His promises. It entails casting your cares unto God because He cares for you. There will be times when you will question Him, and that is allowed, but hold on to Him.

There is no good thing that He will withhold from those who diligently love Him, and that includes your husband.

2. Find out Your Purpose:

Marriage is good, but being married while knowing your purpose is supreme.

There is no better time to explore your purpose than in your singleness. At this time, you do not have so much holding you back as it would be the case when you are married. Seek out your purpose in prayer and reading the Word.

The only way to know the purpose of something is to go back to the manufacturer. Go to God and intentionally seek out your purpose. It will come in bits, but it will surely be evident. If it was the purpose of God for you to be married right now, you would be.

3. Find a Community

Isolation is the enemy of singleness.

Become intentional in having a Godly community around you. Have family and friends that are on speed dial. In this community, seek out people that you can have as your confidants, people you can share with about things that are going on in your life.

4. Have at Least 3 Accountability

Partners Accountability partners will help you remain sane when things get tough.

In your list of accountability partners, have someone who is a bit older than you; a Christian woman. You can have an age mate, someone who at least identifies with your current state. This person should hold the same beliefs as yours as pertains to marriage and godly dating.

Do not have a male accountability partner, unless it is your brother or a couple that has offered to walk with you.

5. Develop New Hobbies:

Waiting in your room and sulking all day will not quite cut it.

Look for new adventures, go on trips and retreats. Sign up for that gym. Try out new hotels and restaurants. Singleness is boring if you make it be. Have a bucket list and make it your goal to check off one item every month.

Remember, hobbies are what make you interesting.

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of personal growth and the foundation of meaningful change.

 

6. Get to Know Yourself:

After all is said and done, you will always remain with you.

Invest in knowing who you really are. Get to know your likes and dislikes. What is your personality? Do a personality test. There are many personality tests that can help you here. Are you sanguine or melancholy? Your singleness is a time to introduce yourself to you. Have retreats alone with a book and a pen. Journal what you find out. You will grow to love the person you are. Ask God in prayer to reveal to you who you are.

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of personal growth and the foundation of meaningful change.

7. Confront Your Childhood Traumas

We all have traumas and triggers.

Your single season is the best time to deal with these traumas without feeling judged or conflicted. Deal with your daddy issues. Deal with rejection. Pray about these issues and journal your journey.

Trauma is the silent storm that rages within, reshaping the landscape of our lives, but with time and healing, we can rebuild and thrive once more.

8. Manage Finances Wisely

Be a steward of the finances God has blessed you with.

In singleness, you have a platform to learn how to budget. Start clearing your education debt and other loans you might have acquired along the way. Cultivate a habit of tithing in your singleness. Most family members and even friends might abuse your singleness and borrow money from you frequently. They use the excuse that you don’t have much to do with money. Learn to set boundaries in this case.

Managing finances as a single individual is like steering a ship alone through uncharted waters. It requires resilience, resourcefulness, and a clear financial map to navigate the challenges and reach your financial goals.

9. Set Boundaries with the Opposite Sex

Remember, you do not need to get married; you want to get married.

There is a difference between the two, and men know a desperate woman when they see one. Some who are cunning might even take advantage of you when they sense desperation. Have clear boundaries while dating and be sure to walk away when they are crossed.

Respectfully communicate your boundaries with clarity and stick by them even when challenged.

10. Pursue Higher Learning

We are in the age of information, and it is the new currency.

You might not be able to afford to go back to school for an MBA, but there is YouTube. Social media can be an enemy, or you can use it as your school. You can use the skills you learn as a means to financial freedom. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.

Become so consumed in learning that you do not give the enemy room for self-pity or feeling inadequate.

11. Serve Others

You will find true fulfillment in serving other people.

You have something to give to this generation. Look deeper, and you will see. When you look in the Bible, great women found true fulfillment and purpose when they got out of their heads and served humanity.

The likes of Esther, Ruth, Deborah, these great women decided to allow God to use them to serve humanity. Service to humanity is service to God.

12. Develop Resilience:

People will say hurtful things, and therefore you need to cultivate a thick skin.

Your resilience is a testament to your inner strength, a fierce determination to bloom independently, and a reminder that you are the architect of your own happiness.

There are mean people out there, and you have to be tough. Remember that He who promised is faithful.

13. Address Your Secret Addictions and Temptations

If you have sinful appetites that you have been feeding, this is the time to address them.

Be authentic with yourself. Are you addicted to pornography? Address it and find out what triggers it. If you occasionally masturbate, when does it happen and why?

If it is temptation with the opposite sex, what kinds of men are you attracted to?

Do particular scents affect you?

Do certain types of hugs affect you?

It is important to address these issues at this time. Remember, marriage will only reveal who you really are and what you have been feeding on.

14. Address the Issue of Loneliness

You are alone but not lonely. If you’re in your late 20s, chances are you are living alone. Living alone has its pros and cons. One of the cons is that there is freedom. This means that you can host male friends without much supervision. If you are living alone, check on these things:

•    If you are hosting people, host a group and not an individual.

•    Have a curfew set for yourself.

•    If you are dating, at least do outdoor dates.

•    Let your accountability partners know your whereabouts.

•    Clearly communicate these arrangements to the person you are dating.

15. Date with Purpose:

If you are dating at this time, do not be timid to seek clarity on the direction of the relationship.

Ask for the direction of the relationship, let the man tell you with words what he intends to do. Do not assume or speak for him. If you suspect that the man is not being truthful with his answer, you are probably right.

If you have to question who you are in the relationship, then the man is clearly telling you who you are.

Frequently Asked Questions on Singleness

1. How to Be a Godly Single Woman

You become a godly single woman by cultivating a personal relationship with God. A personal relationship with God entails:

• Studying the Bible

• Prayer

• Fellowship with other believers

• Listening to Godly music

2. How Do I Feel Confident Being Single:

You feel confident being single by putting your trust in God. Have the conviction that all things work together for your good and that your case has not escaped the mind of God.

3. How Do I Start Loving Being Single

You start loving being single by loving life.

Life is not what will happen when you get a mate; life is what is happening right now. You will start loving being single by getting to the awareness that singleness is a season in life, and it never comes back. It is also the best season for you to start preparing for your marriage.

4. How to Feel Whole Without a Man

You do not need a man to feel whole.

You are not a fraction of a person; you are a whole person. Start a journey of loving the person you see in the mirror. That person is whole and is loved by God.

Conclusion

I pray you get to enjoy this season in the way that God intended you to enjoy it.

I pray that you will get to build such an awesome relationship with God in this season of singleness that you never have to question any single day that you remain single. I pray that your faith will not fail.

God is still on time.