Ushai kuwa na pimple? That kasharp one that decides to invade the most conspicuous place on your face?
No one loves a pimple. A pimple can make you super self-conscious. The problem is—you can’t hide it. Hata layers of foundation won’t do the trick. It protrudes, living rent-free on your face.
And have you noticed how a pimple is an attention seeker? Just when you’re about to tokelezea for a sherehe, boom! The eve of the D-Day, you spot a kasomething forming. You convince yourself, by kesho haitakuwa kubwa—only for kesho to come, and even your caretaker notices it while you’re at the gate waiting for your Uber. “Madam uko smart leo hata na hiyo pimple!” Who asked you, Kiprop?
The reminders from people? Frustrating. I’m like, Dude, I know… it’s on my face!
But here’s what I’m learning about a pimple—what you choose to do with it from inception determines if it will be temporary or leave a permanent scar.
A pimple ignored is a face saved from a scar. I know your hands are itching to hear that satisfying pop, but don’t do it. Don’t let those friends who enjoy pricking pimples near your face. It will cost you.
If you WAIT long enough, the pimple will go. The embarrassment will pass. And the other SIDE OF THE WAIT? It’s beautiful and scar-free.
THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WAIT
Mrembo. Yes, girl. I called you mrembo because you are. With all the pressures about mbona hujaleta mutu, you might actually forget how beautiful you are.
How is this single side of the wait going? I call it this side of the wait because, after watching Being Kambua on YouTube, I realized something: there’s another side of the wait.
That side of the wait? It’s not as temporary as the one you’re in now. That side of the wait has more to do with WHO you are waiting with than WHAT you are waiting for.
Let me bring it home.
THAT SIDE OF THE WAIT (After Marriage)
The same aunties who pressured you with “Ako wapi mutu?” suddenly start hugging you tighter—trying to feel if there’s life in your belly. They start looking at you funny when kimũdũ doesn’t show up at family events.
And have you heard their reasoning for staying? “As long as he’s providing.” That’s so outdated. Girl, you’re already providing for yourself, so why would that be the reason to settle? I digress.
These same aunties who told you, “Wajirũ, etha kimũdũ kiega kina mbeca,” are the same ones who now question why you haven’t had a baby yet—because in their heads, what could possibly be difficult about baby production?
But Sister Joy…
Too bad if you followed their advice of kimũdũ kĩega kĩna mbeca without waiting on God. Too bad if you didn’t hear Him or WAIT on Him.
You might have rushed to leave THIS SIDE OF THE WAIT to avoid embarrassment, but on THAT SIDE OF THE WAIT, only God calls the shots.
A PRAYER FOR YOU
I pray that no matter how intense the pressure gets, you will not hasten His process. I pray that the frustration and embarrassment of being the center of attention at family events won’t make you settle for just any kimũdũ. I pray that God will open your eyes to see the OTHER SIDE OF THE WAIT—and how your choice now will affect that. I pray that you will learn to separate a rich man from a generous one. I pray that you will be healed enough from past trauma to recognize a good man when he comes.
THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WAIT NEEDS ACTIONS, NOT JUST WORDS.
You need to know that he’ll be reliable. That he’s intentional. That he’s your SOS number—not that “bestie” guy you keep convincing us you’re just friends with.
The other side of the wait needs assurance that your kids will have the best role model. Assurance that he’ll create room for you to bloom and become all that God called you to be—because we marry for purpose above all else.
So, let that pimple shine. Don’t prick it. It’s temporary compared to the scar you’ll get if you mess with it.
I know there’s the pressure of “When is it going to be my turn?” Hata mimi sijui, by the way. But one thing I do know is this: God is good.
God is the giver of partners, and ANYTHING GOD CANNOT GIVE ME, I HAVE NO BUSINESS HAVING IN THE FIRST PLACE.
Enjoy this side of the wait. Take a seat and pick them like you would pick ndengu kutoa kwa mawe.
We will be right there to celebrate with you when the time comes. Until then, EAT LIFE WITH A BIG SPOON!
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